There is a great book on this very subject by one of my favorit authors, Barry Neil Kaufman "Bears". It is called "To Love Is To Be Happy With" and really teaches people how to do that. As he points out we are taught from the time we are born practically to judge things: i.e. this is good for me,this is bad for me....he even suggests moving off those thoughts to I like this and want more of it in my life or I don't like this and move away from it....takes the good/bad out of it. It's just like working with special needs children, as my own Nate is, when we stop judging them, which is fear based, and just love them as they are, then we provide the space for them to grow...AMAZING how that works....and can work with anybody that we choose to love.
There is a great book on this very subject by one of my favorit authors, Barry Neil Kaufman "Bears". It is called "To Love Is To Be Happy With" and really teaches people how to do that. As he points out we are taught from the time we are born practically to judge things: i.e. this is good for me,this is bad for me....he even suggests moving off those thoughts to I like this and want more of it in my life or I don't like this and move away from it....takes the good/bad out of it. It's just like working with special needs children, as my own Nate is, when we stop judging them, which is fear based, and just love them as they are, then we provide the space for them to grow...AMAZING how that works....and can work with anybody that we choose to love.
ReplyDeleteGreat post Christi, few words...GIANT message.